Need For Personal Space In Relationships
Partners can go through a phase of confusion, misunderstanding, insecurity or conflict if they do not understand the need for each other’s personal space. They may have a notion that since they are partners nothing is personal, they need not keep secrets from each other, they must be a priority for each other and other bonds like friendship, social relations could take a backseat and so on.
The intertwining and absorption into each other’s life may create a feeling of togetherness, bonding, companionship, intimacy between partners initially; however, after a point of time if possessiveness and obsession develops, partners may find it repelling, suffocating and may demand more space, creating panic, tension or conflict.
Each individual needs space, whatever the relationship. There may be things that a person just needs to keep with himself/herself and this does not mean there is lack of faith or trust in the partner. This is just the space the person needs.
While being in a relationship, partners cannot be dedicated wholly to each other because they have other relations like friends, parents, relatives, neighbours etc. It feels great to know that you come first for your partner, however, it may not be possible always. The partner may just have to take out time for personal contacts and relations.
The personal space also extends to the kinds of people the partner wishes to interact with. If the partner makes new friends, interacts freely with the opposite sex, likes to spend time with them, then this kind of space must be allowed rather than curtailing the choices and freedom of the partner.
Also, partners must not go through the phone list and check out the people who have called the partner, whom the partner has called, what messages have been exchanged etc. It is a personal matter and the partners must not intrude into each other’s relations too much, or must atleast have a positive attitude about it.