Love and Attraction
Attraction is considered to be the first step towards formation of a relationship. Be it friendship, be it while choosing a life partner or while deciding to enter into a relationship with a person. For most of us, the attraction element needs to be strong. So it is a popular and commonly accepted notion that attraction precedes love or attraction can lead to love.
The first impressions are formed by the personality of the person. It comprises his/her looks, manner of dressing, interaction style, manners, behaviour and so on. This forms the beginning of a thought process in the mind. This means the seed of attraction has already taken root in your mind and then thoughts of love and togetherness may start occurring to you.
Most people argue that without attraction there can’t be love. While choosing a life partner too, attraction towards the person may hold a very pivotal place. However, this importance attached to the external surface of a person does not help in forming relationships that can sustain over a lifetime.
Relationships can be formed on the basis of attraction, including infatuation, being crazy about the way the person looks, about his/her built and figure, formation of curves or muscles etc. Because of sexual/physical attraction, people may come together and work around issues of differences, their attitudes, opinions, temperament etc.
This may or may not be successful; the relationship may be strong only till the time each of them can hold each other’s attention and interest physically. Once issues of principles, opinions, attitudes start clashing the interest may die out.
In some relationships people get connected at an intellectual level, emotional level and probably also at a spiritual level. Their main interest is in the mental compatibility, maturity of thought process, similarity of attitude, emotional quotient and so on. This forms the basis of their association with each other and then comes a need for physical intimacy. Such relationships have scope of sustainability as it is the mental and emotional compatibility that has a greater role to play in holding a relationship.