How to tell parents about your relationship
In some households if the parent-child relationship is open and free, if parental thought process and attitudes are child friendly, if children are allowed to make their choices freely and be confident about parental support, disclosing the fact of a relationship may become easier.
However if the relationship is not so friendly, if there is fear and inhibition about parental reaction, if there is doubt about parental support to a relationship and if there is potential scope of conflict in the revelation of the relationship, it may be difficult to confide about the relationship to parents.
Therefore, a certain level of preparedness and mental strength might be required before you could confess about it to parents. The timing has to be appropriate; and the stage of life in which this revelation is made also matters. Your seriousness about the relationship, the sincerity of the partner, his intentions, readiness to support you in the process of obtaining parental sanction will be necessary so that the process is amicable and reaches a positive end.
Do not tell them about the relationship unless you are thoroughly aware of the guy and have tremendous faith and confidence in him. Telling parents about the guy with a wavering unstable mind may make parents doubt your feelings for him, about the sustainability of the relationship and also question the partner’s feelings for you.
Have complete knowledge about the family of the partner because parents tend to trace the family, trace the lineage for assuring themselves that the guy comes from a good family, doesn’t have dubious reputation and so on.
Tell parents about the relationship if you suspect that someone of your relatives or family friends has seen you with the guy and will give a negative contorted version of your relationship. Before they get to hear about the relationship from outsiders it might be better to confide in them, so that they are aware of the true picture and can also handle people who come to tell them about your relationship.
Inform parents about the relationship when the time is perfect. An ideal time may be when you and your partner are well settled in life (professionally), are of the marriageable age and have strong support in each others and are confident that you are matured and responsible enough to carry out the responsibilities of married life.