How to Respond When Your Partner Calls it Off
Calling off a relationship or break off is a hurting and painful experience. If the decision is mutual, there may be some level of acceptability about the decision. However, if the decision is one sided then it can be extremely hurting to the person who is at the receiving end of the relationship.
When your partner expresses the desire or decision to end the relationship and if you are not in favour of that, things may get out of hand. There may be an emotional turmoil, heated arguments, fault finding and other events that may make it even more difficult for you to accept the decision. However, this situation demands a more matured and graceful handling.
Hear out what the partner is saying. Know the reasons for which the partner is choosing to opt out. Do not react impulsively. Probably the partner may want to reconsider the decision if you display an interest in solving her/his grievances.
Do not act indifferently. You have a right to know why the partner is opting out. He/she owes you an explanation of what went wrong. If you feel you are being blamed unjustly, present your side of the reality to the partner. It is well if he/she accepts it, or leave it at that if it is not accepted.
Do not go on an ego trip if your partner has dumped you. Do not go on a blaming and fault finding mission. Do not try to turn around the table at your partner. If you feel you erred, apologize sincerely and ask the partner if he/she is willing to give you another chance. If yes, do your best. If not, do not try to force yourself or persuade him/her to take you back.
Do not go into hysteria or abusing spree. Guard against extreme reactions. It may make it very difficult for both of you to reconcile with the break off if the parting has been abusive, bitter and full of blames or negative messages for each other.