How to Handle Your Angry Girlfriend
Handling a situation of conflict, fight, disagreement with your partner needs a lot of sensitivity and maturity. When a fight is going on, we tend to lose our patience and rational thinking, and may provide any kind of excuses, explanations and may blame each others unreasonably.
We may say something that may become a permanent scar in the relationship and the partner may never be able to excuse us for the slip of tongue or unintentional hurt caused.
When your partner is angry, you need to take the responsibility of balancing the situation so that it does not get blown out of proportion. This means in any circumstance where a partner is heated up or begins the fight, the other one has to maintain a calm and composed manner so that the partner gets a chance to vent her feelings and comes to terms with issues bothering her.
Be patient when your partner is angry. Let her release all her pent up feelings and emotions. You may feel that she is overreacting to minor things, hyperventilating, blaming you unreasonably, is probably hurting your sentiments and emotions. Let her empty her mind and heart out. Do not stop her. Do not question her.
Be quiet. Counter arguments or trying to explain your position when the partner is in a state of full blown anger will not help. In anger, people lose all sense of rational thinking, have blocked mind and are not in a receptive state of mind to accept and believe anything that anyone is saying. The responses are mostly negative, aggressive and defensive.
So wait it out and hold your explanations till the partner has calmed down. If not, your pleas and efforts to pacify her will backfire and both of you may feel more agitated and angry.
Do not stop her from expressing her anger. Choose your words carefully. Never say, ‘don’t overreact’, ‘stop it’, ‘you are embarrassing me’, ‘you are being unfair’, ‘we can talk calmly’ etc. This will fuel her anger even more.
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