How To Avoid Fights In Relationship
There is always scope for quarrels, conflicts, disappointments in a loving relationship due to the sheer nature of the relationship. Romantic relationship may be more difficult to handle as compared to other relationships, due to the heavy emotional involvement, dependence on each other, need for being wanted and loved, difference in personality traits, kind of expectations, demands placed on each other and so on.
To reduce fights and quarreling over petty issues, check your expectations. Some expectations that can create conflict or misunderstanding in the relationship are expecting the partner to be very sensitive to your needs, always focusing on ‘Me’ rather than ‘Us’, taking decisions without consulting each other and expecting the partner to follow it meekly, not thinking about the restrictions posed by the family, expecting the partner to devote a lot of time to you by talking for hours or meeting frequently.
Stop taking yourself very seriously. If you are full of self importance, want to be in a dominating position, are aggressive in your approach, do not give a chance to the partner to take the lead or express subjective opinion, then there could be chances of frequent arguments.
Don’t be possessive. Do not keep tabs on each other, whom the partner meets or talks to every day, where he/she is, why is he/she talking to a particular person so much etc. Do not confront the partner with unreasonable doubts and suspicions. Do not be jealous of the friends. Give each other space and privacy.
Do not make a mountain out of a molehill. There may be a minor disagreement or disappointment or flaw on the part of the partner. Do not blow it out of proportion. Do not give more importance to a topic than what it deserves. Don’t be fussy about petty issues.
Do not dig up old skeletons. When you are in the middle of an argument, do not bring in all the old issues and grievances on the forefront; tackle only the current issue. Don’t trace backwards. Let go.